the weird thing about male stereotypes is that they’re mostly perpetuated by men.
i was just talking to my father and he told me that i need to “leave men alone” because men are stupid, manipulative, potentially violent/ dangerous, only want sex, are immature at this age, a waste of my time, and will prevent me on focusing on my education.
lol that’s pretty much every negative stereotype against men wrapped up into one sentence and i hear this all the time from men.
but when women regurgitate it because they experience some of this stuff first hand then *we’re* man hating.
the truth is male privilege makes a lot of men very entitled which leads to unsavory behavior. so in this sense these stereotypes have some truth.
but at the same time even i know not all men fall into these categories. but if i talk to my father or my uncles or my older male cousins they’ll be the ones who are most willing to say that pretty much all men do. or they’ll say “i’m like that. that’s how i know.”
And this doesn’t just happen when men are trying to keep women (daughters, sisters) away from other men. It’s all over our media.
and to me, the important thing to notice is the differences in how rihanna and britney spears are treated. or madonna or denise richards or kelly preston or any of the multitudes of white women who have been abused or ARE being abused, in the case of spears—and how are they looked at? compared to rihanna? is madonna known and defined by the abuse she experienced? does anybody even know what i’m talking about when i say brittney is being abused?
why is nobody pressuring brittney to “just leave” and hoping she “stays safe”?
“That life is stressful for Black students and other students of color on predominantly White campuses should not come as a surprise, but it often does. White students and faculty frequently underestimate the power and presence of the overt and covert manifestations of racism on campus, and students of color often come to predominantly White campuses expecting more civility than they find. Whether it is the loneliness of being routinely overlooked as a lab partner in science courses, the irritation of being continually asked by curious classmates about Black hairstyles, the discomfort of being singled out by a professor to give the ‘Black perspective’ in class discussion, the pain of racist graffiti scrawled on dormitory room doors, the insult of racist jokes circulated through campus email, or the injury inflicted by racial epithets (and sometimes beer bottles) hurled from a passing car, Black students on predominantly White college campuses must cope with ongoing affronts to their racial identity.”
— Beverly Daniel Tatum, Why Are All The Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria? (via tabularasae)
Literally all of this stuff happened at Pomona College, a supposedly liberal haven.